Beaming a good and kind and positive International Men's Day to all. I've spoken about this before but there is so much untapped potential in men - so much wasted due to fear and toxicity. Trumps and Putins weren't born that way - it took a lifetime of poor parenting, fear and unkindness, all being constantly negatively reinforced. No young man is a monster. But they do need positive role models, love, guidance and support. And without us all making an active decision to do this it creates a vacuum filled by opportunists or lazy media stereotypes. We ask ourselves 'what are we meant to be' and draw from what is available. Which is invariably not the sort of man who focuses on community, compassion and empathy. We're all superhero rockstar antiheroes. Swashbuckling rogues. Given the choice between Luke and Han we are all Han. Whilst great, Han is a cool uncle. You don't want Han raising a new generation of young men. Look at what happened to Kylo. Although I'm not sure Luke is a good example either. They're fictional anyway why are we even talking about this? I've lost my point.

Be the change you want to see in the world. Small actions have big results. Show kindness. Correct lazy unkindness. Normalise saying 'that's not ok' or 'I don't agree with that', and 'well done' or 'that was great' or 'you've got this'. People will respect you more for having the mettle to stand up for yourself and others in small ways. And then you can lead them all... to victory!

I love you. You're great. Love yourself too (not like that) and remember how important it was to receive guidance from male role models in your life. You are that person now. Wield it wisely and we all win. X