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anecdotal but this was my experience with SE (and other exchanges too). Toxic, pedantic, sexist, or just outright hostile, I only posted if desperate. After the nth time being called a moron or moron equivalent and I'm perfectly fine with this specific site being replaced by LLMs
Perl monks otoh is a wonderful community and a worthy example that tech forums don't have to be a cesspool of brogrammer insecurity.