And I started beating my college boyfriend at chess, every time. He deeply resented it but I didn't realize it because he was pretty good at pretending otherwise. I was just happy. Right up until the day I won a match and he threw the board & pieces off the table so violently it felt like a threat
There's a paper in psychology this makes me think of: "Penalties for success: reactions to women who succeed at male gender-typed tasks"
Even when women prove themselves competent at tasks, there is "bias in evaluative judgments."
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