@dansup but how about "post it to closed groups only" (like Hubzilla does?)

But yes, if a server of a user who is in the group has implemented it wrong, on purpose or by accident, it will be publicly available to all on the server....

but: people want to have privacy.
so I don't agree with your post. I think it's really wrong!

We want people to leave Facebook + Insta, where they can say, who should be able to see a post. and that's something we need in the Fediverse too.