the reason that LGBTQIA+ is a "all or nothing" issue is because for decades we have experienced people trying to fragment our collective voices, turning us against each other. I will not compromise on accepting aro & ace identities. I will not "tone it down" because that's what they always fucking say.
the second i compromise and do things like reject neo pronouns... the worse it's going to get as they continue to narrowly define how to be queer in the "correct" way. On tumblr I've watched trans folk talk about how the reason transphobia is so rampant was because we allowed neopronouns. It fucking hurts right, that's not it. They were never going to accept us anyway, continuing to try to make ourselves fit their image is just going to cause more harm than good.
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