@presleypizzo.bsky.socialPresley Pizzo
'Two perspectives can both have a piece of the truth.
Internally: you can feel both angry and guilty at the same time. Realizing that you don’t have to pick – both can be true – brings relief.
Externally: you can see the kernel of truth in someone else’s perspective without giving up your own perspective. You can ask what’s distorted about your perspective without giving up what’s true about your perspective.'
@presleypizzo.bsky.socialPresley Pizzo
'Holding Accountable ≠ Shaming and Punishing
To stop wrongdoing long-term, people have to take a hard look at themselves and change the root cause of the wrongdoing, deep inside themselves.
Deep change requires feeling safe.
Feeling shame is the opposite of feeling safe.
Though consequences are sometimes needed to motivate certain people to begin the accountability process, compassion aids the accountability process.'
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