Having just talked on Jochen Topf's private video chat server, I suddenly understood it's pretty easy to have my own custom Jitsi instance.
Couple hours of experiments later, I have a subdomain and two scripts to create and destroy a server. That would cost me less than a euro a month, and makes for a better experience than google meet.
I've based mine on https://github.com/EvilOlaf/turnkey-jitsi-hcloud β thanks @benzuckerBen Zucker π°
(or could I have just used free https://meet.jit.si/ ? idk now)