My wife is training to be a therapist, and she spent a lot of time observing my interactions with my Chinese family. We always joke that many southern Chinese people are basically emotionally stunted. Can’t talk about feelings.
Instead of talking about feelings, and openly resolving conflict, everything gets funneled through acts of care. Primarily food.
If I’m upset at my mom, she will never say sorry, but she will cook me something. My parents were devastatingly upset when we decided to move to San Francisco, but we couldn’t talk about it: I just had to feed them until their anger subsided. (Oysters helped)
When my grandma died (I was very close to her), my parents were so afraid to ask how I’m feeling about it, but they silently cooked me a meal everyday that was a dish that she would have cooked for me. When they came to visit, there was a lot of eating together, but no talking about feelings. Finally, before they left they said, we know you aren’t coming back home.
But that was the only emotional thing I’d ever heard them say, and even then it was a thing they said and then ran away quickly from (literally, into a cab to the airport)